Not every day we get to hear a heartfelt, down-to-earth conversation in regards to long-distance love stories, particularly from one of Thailand’s most-searched couples whose Do’s and Don’ts are about to intrigue and inspire you – simply to love better.
He was a funny person and was easy to talk to. When I was talking with him I felt like I wanted to continue the conversation on and on merely because of his charming charisma.
What are the challenges you’ve experienced being in a long-distance relationship?
We’ve been travelling back and forth since four years ago when we first started dating. And because we don’t get to see each other as often as those couples who live within the same country, our moods sometimes turn to be sort of unreasonably inconstant. We’d get a bit moody. Therefore, we really have to try to understand each other, as well as make compromises. Persistent communication is also key for our relationship. I’m a fairly simple and understanding person while Danial is relatively compromising. So, we’ve made a decision together to switch back and forth as to who’s flying over to visit one another.
For you, is there a recommended time limit for being apart from your other half?
It actually depends on personal preferences, like how long they can be apart from each other. But for us, we have a rule that in every 2 to 3 weeks we have to meet each other. We wouldn’t let it slip to one month because that’s just way too long.
What has been your biggest challenge yet?
As face-to-face conversations are limited to us, we sometimes misunderstand each other which, in the end, leads to a trivial argument. Talking via phone can make comprehension between two people harder, especially when there’s no FaceTiming involved. We don’t face time with each other when we talk on the phone, simply just the talking. We call each other when we’re free. It’s just as simple as that. Some people might have a little talk during the day and a long conversation in the evening. But for us, we usually talk all day but just for a short time.
How have you both managed to overcome these challenges?
Danial likes to send cute things, such as a boutique of beautiful flowers or treats whenever I feel down. It’s the little things that make me feel better. They also make me think of him. Talking nicely and complimenting one another consistently make us feel good. Hence creating a positive energy for our relationship. We try to always be optimistic in our way of thinking. If one of us feels down, we cheer each other up. We don’t really fight. Our arguments are normally due to our own temperamental emotions. There’s no decent reason. We just have to control our own mental sentiments and stay positive. Also, a simple but yet powerful word like “thank you” could as well really make a difference.
Has there been any certain time or moment within the relationship that you feel like it might not work out anymore?
I have a problem with saying goodbyes. I will become very upset. Even with my parents, whenever they have to go abroad I’d always have a hard time saying goodbye to them. Sometimes I ask myself, “Why do I have to do this every 2 weeks?”, as it can be a little draining, and “How long do I have to do this for?”. But, we have to look on the brighter side. We have to always think positively and find positive things from the situation. For instance, instead of questioning “Why do I have to do this every 2 weeks?”, I now tell myself, “I’m very lucky that it’s only every 2 weeks, and not more.” We have to find positive things about our situation to make us feel good. Try to find the good things, not only the bad things. Just simply change your mindset. Every time I get upset because we have to say goodbye, he’d always say “it’s only for 2 weeks”. Every couple is in a different situation, but it’s important to find a good thing in your own circumstance in order to cheer yourself up.
The Do’s and Don’ts we must bear in mind if we want to make long-distance relationships work?
Do communicate, compromise, try to understand your partner and think positively. Don’t think in a negative way, be overwhelmingly self-centred and over think about the little things.
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